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All They Need is Love through Power and Attention

There are two things that children are usually looking for when they display inappropriate behaviors… Power and Attention The authors of the book The Connected Child do a wonderful job of describing healing and helpful ways to connect to your children.  They designed the book with adoptive children in mind, but their great ideas can […]

The Big Little Moments of our Day

Why is it that smallest parts of our day lead to the BIGGEST MELTDOWNS? Moving from bed to getting dressed Moving from breakfast to packing up back packs Moving from car to preschool drop off Moving from tv off to homework time Moving from playtime in the backyard to dinner…. Where is your BIGGEST MELTDOWN? It is very likely […]

Win Win situation

We expect our kids to be big kids yet we end up doing everything for them. By letting your kids have more chances to do things for themselves and do these things with success we can hand over more power and control to them which is all they really want. Simple things like carrying their own dish to […]

Flexible Perspective

Do you find yourself in heated battles with your child? Is it because you’re both stuck on seeing the world in black or white? What would happen if you tweaked your perspectives and did some flexible thinking to work things out? Think about what you can and can’t live with, set boundaries around these things […]

How Do We Teach Self Control

“Teach your child to show strength by self control, not by controlling others” —-John Taylor PH.D and author of From Defiance to Cooperation How do we teach self control? Discuss choice making…. Positive and Negative Acknowledge positive choices and self control when you see them … Give tools for self control like: a chance to […]

The Rule of Thumb When Making Rules…

                               Children as young as three can think things through using the statements… “If … Then…”  This is called the age of reason where they can judge what might happen next if they choose certain behaviors.  This means at this early age, we can already guide our children to take on the job of regulating […]