The problems just keep coming…No matter how we try to avoid the road blocks that stand in the way of our child’s life it is bound to happen that they come across a problem and they will need skills to solve around it.
The worst thing we can do as parents is to constantly problem solve for them, instead we need to focus on giving them chances to practice critical thinking skills on their own.
This means we might have to sit back and watch them suffer and struggle a little. The suffering and struggling is good for them. It helps them to become critical thinkers and resilient to the point that they can bounce back from the problems easier and easier with each new experience because like we said earlier…the problems will keep coming.
Recently, one of my long time Child in Bloom fans emailed me for some books to use to help kids learn to problem solve. Here are the books I mentioned to her:
My favorite… Battlefield of the Mind for Kids by Joyce Meyer (there are some religious, Christian themes to this which goes nicely if you are looking for a faith based approach to problem solving).
Great Ideas and Activities that are Kid Friendly… The Survival Guide for Kids with Behavior Challenges by Dr. Tom McIntyre (This is about how to make good choices and stay out of trouble, but I have to admit I DO NOT like the title of this because I think this book good for ALL kids and I can’t imagine any child wanting to read a book titled this way… Still, it is a great book!)
The American Girl Series has some great troubleshooting books for friendship, safety and simply growing up.
Look for books on Conflict Resolution
Here is a great book on parenting that has some wonderful ideas on creating problem solving kiddos… Thinking Parent… Thinking Child
I love this book as a teacher (I used to use it in my classroom way back when…) Teaching Conflict Resolution Through Children’s Literature It is a list of great activities and literature books that support conflict resolution and critical thinking.