Parent Coaching Blog

Aug
10

That Darn Purple Dinosaur and his Clean Up Song

40494543_sWhat is it with that song? … You know the one…

Clean Up Clean Up Everybody Everywhere…

Clean Up Clean Up…

Everybody do your share…

That song haunts me sometimes when I least expect it.  Yes, my kids (especially my older kids) loved that Purple Dinosaur and his songs stuck with them and much to my dismay they stuck in my head too.  In fact if Evy or Mick Mattson were to walk in here right now, they could probably sing through any of those wretched songs word for word.  There is something to be said about having a catchy tune to transition a child from a pleasant event (like: playing with their toys) and move them towards a not so pleasant event (like: cleaning up those toys).  The song becomes a cue and the change in pitch of their mother’s voice redirects their brains to fall in line and do that job in a more joyful way.

So, the lesson learned is when you feel like your kids are tuning you out, tune into a catchy song to get them to listen.  It doesn’t have to be one from a popular kids tv show (although if it is a show they are into it won’t hurt).  It could simply be any words put to a common tune.  You could sing about eating vegetables to the tune of Twinkle Twinkle Little Star.  You could sing about making good choices to the tune of Do You Know the Muffin Man?  You could even sing about their emotions or temper tantrums and how to calm down by coming up with a song that goes to the tune of This Little Light of Mine.  Maybe you could even get your kids on board to help you come up with a song.  Whatever works, it is worth a shot to add singing to your parenting toolbox.

The one thing that is sure to happen is that singing might make you steer clear of the heightened emotions that often make behaviors go from bad to worse.  It may calm your own emotions down, keep you from talking and describing too much and singing will most certainly make you in a less serious and more playful mood.  If you are using less words, less emotion, having more fun, smiling more, and more calm you are way more likely to get your child’s attention in positive ways.   So if singing can help you do these things let’s put singing to use more often in our day to day parenting.

Aug
8

Taking Care of Your Tiny Humans…

It’s hard to instill a moral compass in our kids’ lives when we follow what the world values.  And what does the world value?

Humans Having….. or …. Humans Being?
Having Lots of Friends …or… Being a Friend to Many?
Having the Championship Trophy… or… Being a Good Sport?
Having the next Best Thing…or… Being Satisfied with what you have?
Having Access to the Best Cars, Schools,  & Sports Trainers or Being a Life Long Learner?

When raising your little humans, pay attention to what you really desire for your child’s future… Do you want them to be Humans Having or Humans Being?  It is so easy to fall into line with what the world is telling you to value.

All the other moms are signing their kids up for soccer at 3 years old…All the other families are working like dogs so they can have fancy cars and fancy homes… All the other families are putting their kids into specialized camps to increase their academic and sports skills.

Make sure your personal values come first not the world’s values and design your parenting goals around what matters most to you and your family…

If cars and houses and trophies and elite schools and camps are what you value then so be it.

BUT if a moral compass is what you want for your children,  then you have to focus your family on making good choices.  They have to  understand that less can be more, tiny teachable moments happen all day long, and  friendship skills and good sportsmanship can lead to a fun filled social life.

These lessons are all your child needs to have a valueable human life.