The “it factor”… Stop it! End it! Quit it! Are you tired of these phrases? Whether they are coming from parent to child or sibling to sibling, these phrases have one thing in common… It Do you know why these phrases rarely work? Because they aren’t specific enough. Train yourself to be more specific in […]
After each workshop, I ask the parents to write down the one tip they are going to go home and try to implement. Here is a list of the Top 10 tips chosen by parents this year: 10. Role play or use puppets to act out positive behaviors with your child. 9. Design a list […]
It’s Show Time! What show is playing at your house these days? Maybe the baby in your family is running the show. Maybe your toddler’s temper tantrums resemble a horror show. Maybe your your over-the-top reactions are keeping everyone on the edge of their seats. Maybe the sibling rivalry has turned into a violent fight […]
Are you constantly nagging your children to accomplish the smallest task? Could it be that what seems easy to you is overwhelming to your child? Think about all the skills needed to make a bed, pick up toys, pack your backpack… By breaking tasks down into their most minute parts, we might be able to […]
When in doubt separate… Give them space from each other…. Give yourself space from them… Space to make a new plan. Space to get composed Space to be them self Space to gather Grace.
“Whoever tells the stories defines the culture.” David Walsh PhD… Author of NO : why kids of all ages need to hear it and ways parents can say it. Who is the primary storyteller in your family? Is it your television? Is it your child’s phone, iPad or video games Is it another adult or […]
In this rush rush world of busy busy lives, we are quick to expect immediate responses from our children. When we ask them and expect a response they may take longer to process the request than we expect. Use this as a pausing moment for yourself. Walk away saying… “Let me know when you are […]
Do you find yourself in heated battles with your child? Is it because you’re both stuck on seeing the world in black or white? What would happen if you tweaked your perspectives and did some flexible thinking to work things out? Think about what you can and can’t live with, set boundaries around these things […]
Patterns… Where does the behavior show up? When is the behavior absent? Who handles the behavior best? What triggers the behavior? How does your parenting response affect the behavior? Why is the behavior worse in certain environments? …. Follow the patterns to find the best methods for dealing with your child’s behavior.
One of my favorite children’s books for helping children understand the reading comprehension concept of cause and effect is a book called That’s Good, That’s Bad by Margery Cuyler. In this book, a young boy, starts his visit to the zoo when his parents get him a shiny red balloon. Oh, That’s Good!… No That’s […]
