Your number one house rule should be “We are Safe”. This is the one way to make sure that no one gets hurt or humiliated. This means that adults will not hurt or humiliate a child and children will follow suit. It also means that they will make choices that are safe. Of course being […]
Are you constantly nagging your children to accomplish the smallest task? Could it be that what seems easy to you is overwhelming to your child? Think about all the skills needed to make a bed, pick up toys, pack your backpack… By breaking tasks down into their most minute parts, we might be able to […]
When in doubt separate… Give them space from each other…. Give yourself space from them… Space to make a new plan. Space to get composed Space to be them self Space to gather Grace.
“Whoever tells the stories defines the culture.” David Walsh PhD… Author of NO : why kids of all ages need to hear it and ways parents can say it. Who is the primary storyteller in your family? Is it your television? Is it your child’s phone, iPad or video games Is it another adult or […]
In this rush rush world of busy busy lives, we are quick to expect immediate responses from our children. When we ask them and expect a response they may take longer to process the request than we expect. Use this as a pausing moment for yourself. Walk away saying… “Let me know when you are […]
Do you find yourself in heated battles with your child? Is it because you’re both stuck on seeing the world in black or white? What would happen if you tweaked your perspectives and did some flexible thinking to work things out? Think about what you can and can’t live with, set boundaries around these things […]
Patterns… Where does the behavior show up? When is the behavior absent? Who handles the behavior best? What triggers the behavior? How does your parenting response affect the behavior? Why is the behavior worse in certain environments? …. Follow the patterns to find the best methods for dealing with your child’s behavior.
Some say we’re raising our children in The Age of Information, and who can argue with this? If we need any insights to support our parenting, it’s literally at our fingertips within seconds. Like an acorn falling from the tree of knowledge tree, all this information can be a blessing and a curse. Maybe a […]
WHY do we want to be better parents?…to improve how our children RELATE to their world and the people in their lives.. HOW do we become better parents?… Gathering REAL RESOURCES, having REAL time to REFLECT, and using RESPONSES that REALLY work. WHAT happens when we become better parents?… We start to REGULATE our thoughts, […]
“Teach your child to show strength by self control, not by controlling others” —-John Taylor PH.D and author of From Defiance to Cooperation How do we teach self control? Discuss choice making…. Positive and Negative Acknowledge positive choices and self control when you see them … Give tools for self control like: a chance to […]
