Patterns… Where does the behavior show up? When is the behavior absent? Who handles the behavior best? What triggers the behavior? How does your parenting response affect the behavior? Why is the behavior worse in certain environments? …. Follow the patterns to find the best methods for dealing with your child’s behavior.
Some say we’re raising our children in The Age of Information, and who can argue with this? If we need any insights to support our parenting, it’s literally at our fingertips within seconds. Like an acorn falling from the tree of knowledge tree, all this information can be a blessing and a curse. Maybe a […]
WHY do we want to be better parents?…to improve how our children RELATE to their world and the people in their lives.. HOW do we become better parents?… Gathering REAL RESOURCES, having REAL time to REFLECT, and using RESPONSES that REALLY work. WHAT happens when we become better parents?… We start to REGULATE our thoughts, […]
“Teach your child to show strength by self control, not by controlling others” —-John Taylor PH.D and author of From Defiance to Cooperation How do we teach self control? Discuss choice making…. Positive and Negative Acknowledge positive choices and self control when you see them … Give tools for self control like: a chance to […]
One of my favorite children’s books for helping children understand the reading comprehension concept of cause and effect is a book called That’s Good, That’s Bad by Margery Cuyler. In this book, a young boy, starts his visit to the zoo when his parents get him a shiny red balloon. Oh, That’s Good!… No That’s […]
Let’s define nasty behavior… Hurting: with words and tone, hitting, pinching, biting … Fussing: screaming, yelling, talking back, whining, tantrums… Naming these STOP behaviors is the first step. No Hurting and No Fussing are the only rules you really need. Now that we know what we are dealing with, lets get to work on eliminating […]
Our two boys love to wrestle. We have to provide lots of time for this kind of rough housing during these cooped up winter months. It helps them to release tension and regulates their sensory systems. So here are some things we do to keep their bodies active: Pillow pile up where we let them […]
How do we help a child own up to their behavior choices and begin to make a change? The following methods encourage a child to be in charge of their good choice making… Tell them the expectations upfront so they know what they are working towards. Give them a chance to rewind when they’ve made […]
We all have an inner Mommy Monster lurking within us. It lays low, waiting for our children to push us to our limits. We try desperately to keep the monster hidden and out of sight, but no matter what, it creeps into our mindset and takes over our approach when we least expect it. There’s no escaping this […]
Children as young as three can think things through using the statements… “If … Then…” This is called the age of reason where they can judge what might happen next if they choose certain behaviors. This means at this early age, we can already guide our children to take on the job of regulating […]
