It’s hard to instill a moral compass in our kids’ lives when we follow what the world values. And what does the world value? Humans Having….. or …. Humans Being? Having Lots of Friends …or… Being a Friend to Many? Having the Championship Trophy… or… Being a Good Sport? Having the next Best Thing…or… Being Satisfied with what […]
In one of my latest one on one coaching sessions, we were dealing with a little guy who wanted lots of attention and power around his house. Mom and dad were feeding the attention that was negative and it kept repeating until they shifted their attention on catching him being good. Yeah!!! Mom and Dad!!! […]
A friend of ours is a writer. He is doing a piece on Love and asked Toby and I to contribute our own perspectives on: What is Love? Getting this question posed to us at this season of Christmas has been a true blessing because it has allowed us to see the connections between the […]
We spend so much time talking to our kids. Lecturing them about why bonking their brother over the head with a block is not a good idea. Debating with them about whether 8:00 PM is too late for another snack. Giving them a spiel on how to be polite at Grandma’s house Completing a discourse on […]
Stop asking Why and Start asking What Your 10 year old crashed her bike into your new car. Your toddler threw his toy at the puppy. Your son whacked his sister over the head with his toy train. And you say… “Why in the world did you do that?” This question assumes your child was thinking, […]
Your child’s outbursts in public can make you want to pull your hair out and run for the hills. They put you and your spouse on high alert and can even cause you to win enemies (the people sitting next to you at church) and lose your friends (the parents of the kid your child bit at storytime). The […]
Do you have monster-like-behavior lurking in your house? Whining, Screaming, gnawing at your emotions and patience? Like any monster, in order to survive, this behavior has to be fed a daily dose of sustenance. What are your giving to your child’s behavior that helps it survive? Is it a dollop of good old fashioned attention that feeds the wild beast? Is it your […]
If you read my Mealtimes Matter passage from my August Newsletter, then you know how important I think it is for families to gather around a table whether it be for breakfast, lunch or dinner. Call it my soapbox, but I have a few more ideas on how we solidify our families. These essential things […]
Although dinner time at our house may not always run smoothly, it serves as the number one factor that ensures our family’s success. Studies show that children who sit down with their family regularly ( for breakfast, lunch, or dinner) are more likely to do well in school, attain their goals, and succeed socially. This is because the family […]
We expect our kids to be big kids yet we end up doing everything for them. By letting your kids have more chances to do things for themselves and do these things with success we can hand over more power and control to them which is all they really want. Simple things like carrying their own dish to […]
